It’s normal to feel irritation or anger at times; it’s a natural human response to certain life experiences. People often claim to feel anger in response to believing they are being attacked, judged, insulted, deceived or frustrated. It becomes a problem when it is triggered too easily and provokes an extreme response and harms you or the people around you.
Often, anger problems are due to poor management of our emotions. Anger, like all emotions, involves physiological and chemical changes in the body. Unresolved anger can lead to high blood pressure, heart attack, depression and anxiety. When anger gets out of control, it can be destructive and significantly impact your quality of life - affecting your career, your relationships and overall well-being
Anger can range from irritability through to rage, however, in general, any form of anger is caused by the belief that life is unfair and/or someone has violated our internal beliefs about how someone ‘should’ or ‘should not’ behave.
Anger management counselling
Anger management counselling is designed to help you to explore the underlying causes of your anger. You will be encouraged to look at some of the unhelpful beliefs about anger that may have been present in your family and how your anger is affecting your relationships and impacting your quality of life.
Counselling will help you recognise and accept your anger issues. You will be helped to explore and identify your trigger points for anger early on along with identifying thoughts and beliefs they do not lead to logical or rational conclusions. Your counsellor will work with you to change how you think and react to certain situations. You will learn skills to help you manage angry feelings more effectively allowing you to express yourself while remaining calm and in control.
Further Reading and self-help on anger management
‘Anger Management’ A Guide on How to Control Your Life and Deal with Your Relationships - by Alan Tucker (2015)
‘Overcoming Anger and Irritability: A Self Help Guide Using Cognitive Behavioural Techniques’ (2009) by Dr. William Davies
‘Managing Anger’ Simple Steps to Dealing with Frustration and Threat’ (2000)
Why use Counselling Ashford?
Hundreds of lives have been changed for the better
Proven in building a trusting relationship enabling individuals to find a greater understanding of them self and find a way forward and achieve their goals.
Help, support and guidance - reducing confusion and enabling clarity and choice
Tools for you to continue to use at home once the counselling is completed
BSC(hons) Psychology (accredited by the British Psychological Society)
Cert Counselling Skills
We subscribe to and work within the UKCP Code of Ethics and the BACP Ethical Framework
We will help you understand what is going on in your life that is causing you unhappiness
Feel relaxed in quiet, comfortable environment
Convenient & flexible appointments to suit you.
Ideally located in the heart of Kent in three practices, near Ashford, Canterbury, Maidstone and Medway
Just a note to say how grateful I am for your help and advice. I was so muddled and confused before I had my sessions with you. I can see things more clearly now and have much more confidence after your help and advice. I know I have a bit further to go but with you support I am quite sure I will get there.
P. Bennett - Rye
A friend advised me to come and see you about my anxiety attacks. I must admit to being a little sceptical at first, but you were so patient Sian and you seemed to have a knack in making me see my strengths. I cannot tell you how much it has helped me in my work and social life. I no longer want to hide away when there is an important social event. I can at last look forward to things instead of dreading meeting new people. Thanks you from the bottom of my heart.
As a man in his sixties and having seen various counsellors in the past I didn’t think anyone could help me. As you know I had suffered various bouts of depression throughout the years and had begun to think the problems were ‘built in’ and such a part of me there was no escape. It has been quite a journey but I wanted to thank you for your continuing support , help and advice. At last I can feel more positive and I am in a much happier place – thank you Sian
Thank you so much for all your help and support I feel better than I have for years!
About Counselling Ashford
Through gentle questioning and discussion you gain clarity and understanding of your situation. We will help you find ways to move forward and achieve the goals that you set yourself. We have practices in Ashford, Charing & Egerton