Many people find the idea coming to therapy or Counselling or Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) daunting. Not only might they be opening themselves up for the very first time, they'll also be opening up to a complete stranger. Many people express concerns such as “what will they think of me?” or “will they judge me or think I’m weak?” However, our therapists understand that the pain or upset a person may feel is, more often than not, due to an unfortunate set of life experiences and is certainly no ‘fault’ of anyone for which they might be ‘judged’.
Once the first tentative steps have been taken, many people discover that because the therapist is a complete stranger it has a liberating effect – knowing that everything discussed during your session will remain between you and your therapist is very reassuring. Complete confidence and trust is essential to the process of therapy and is a principle to which we are ethically and professionally bound.
There is no particular point in life when people come to therapy, but it’s often when confronted by a sense of not being able to move forward, or change. Significant events such as bereavement and loss, anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, questioning who one is or feeling unable to get over past events are common reasons for seeking counselling or CBT.
The first session
The first session will not only allow you the opportunity to talk through what is troubling you. It will also, as importantly, enable you to decide whether your chosen counsellor is someone with whom you are comfortable with and feel you can open up to.
You will be able to discuss your particular concerns and explore the changes you would like to make, along with how you would like your life to be once you achieve what you set out to in therapy. We will then start to form a collaborative strategy in order for you to reach your goals.
You will not be required to commit to counselling if you feel it is not right for you, for whatever reason. You might perhaps feel that your therapist is not right for you. Please don’t worry about that, there are plenty of other therapists whose style and experience might be better suited to you.
It might sound odd to already be talking about ending therapy, but it’s important to understand that therapy always has an ending in mind even as it starts out. At counselling Ashford we don’t believe people should be expected to enter into an open-ended arrangement where sessions meander towards no particular goal.
Rather that it should be time-limited and focused on a clear outcome. Whether 'time-limited' means six weeks or six months clearly depends on the particular set of difficulties you’re facing, but you certainly are not entering into an open-ended long term contract.
That said, an ending does not have to be absolute and it can be reassuring to know that you can always come back to see your counsellor for an occasional progress review or when you feel you need a boost in confidence after a particular set-back. You can even come back for another short course of therapy to help consolidate a new positive perspective or commitment.
Why use Counselling Ashford?
Hundreds of lives have been changed for the better
Proven in building a trusting relationship enabling individuals to find a greater understanding of them self and find a way forward and achieve their goals.
Help, support and guidance - reducing confusion and enabling clarity and choice
Tools for you to continue to use at home once the counselling is completed
BSC(hons) Psychology (accredited by the British Psychological Society)
Cert Counselling Skills
We subscribe to and work within the UKCP Code of Ethics and the BACP Ethical Framework
We will help you understand what is going on in your life that is causing you unhappiness
Feel relaxed in quiet, comfortable environment
Convenient & flexible appointments to suit you.
Ideally located in the heart of Kent in three practices, near Ashford, Canterbury, Maidstone and Medway
Just a note to say how grateful I am for your help and advice. I was so muddled and confused before I had my sessions with you. I can see things more clearly now and have much more confidence after your help and advice. I know I have a bit further to go but with you support I am quite sure I will get there.
P. Bennett - Rye
A friend advised me to come and see you about my anxiety attacks. I must admit to being a little sceptical at first, but you were so patient Sian and you seemed to have a knack in making me see my strengths. I cannot tell you how much it has helped me in my work and social life. I no longer want to hide away when there is an important social event. I can at last look forward to things instead of dreading meeting new people. Thanks you from the bottom of my heart.
As a man in his sixties and having seen various counsellors in the past I didn’t think anyone could help me. As you know I had suffered various bouts of depression throughout the years and had begun to think the problems were ‘built in’ and such a part of me there was no escape. It has been quite a journey but I wanted to thank you for your continuing support , help and advice. At last I can feel more positive and I am in a much happier place – thank you Sian
Thank you so much for all your help and support I feel better than I have for years!
About Counselling Ashford
Through gentle questioning and discussion you gain clarity and understanding of your situation. We will help you find ways to move forward and achieve the goals that you set yourself. We have practices in Ashford, Charing & Egerton